Can I call you?? ~ In the middle of the night??
Been doing lots of thinking about TRUE friendship lately… what with my ‘resolution’ and all – I know it’s just another “time suck” that occupies my brain and keeps me from concentrating on the things that I am supposed to be concentrating on at the time! Hey, I KNOW my time management skillz totally suck so I might as well show the CRAZY that actually goes on in my mind…
Does anyone else take some – ?, most – ?, all – ? friendships too much to heart?
Does anyone else MUDDLE the line between a REAL friend and a casual acquaintance?
Is this me being crazy?
Sometimes I think I put more “intensity” on the ‘friendship’ I think I have with people and then end up very disappointed, sad, hurt, resentful when I realize – too often, too late – that, that “friendship” really wasn’t what I thought it was….
Is this sounding like a “sad sap” story yet – LOL – totally not meaning for it too – but really wanting to work on this whole resolution thing to make time for those that are important in my life and having to decide where to draw the line for who is TRULY important in my life… and for all that is good in the world – I HAVE TO STOP CARING ABOUT THOSE THAT DO NOT RETURN THE FAVOR!!
Who can name every member of their wedding party, tell me exactly where they are and what they are doing right now? Can you list 10 friends, 5 friends?, ANY friends? - that you could call, to be the shoulder you need - in an emergency? – in the middle of the night?? Would any – or all – of them drive across state lines at the ‘drop of a hat’ for you – without you asking – just cuz they would know you needed them? (What does that expression even mean – “Drop of a Hat”???) More importantly – are you this person to anyone else?
Funny – I seriously thought about these questions and came up with a lot longer list of people that I would do anything for, than people I feel will do anything for me… and that seriously has me RE-thinking my friendships!! Additionally I wonder if others feel the same way… do the people I truly feel I would “do anything” for know they can count on me? Do they know how very much I love them and value their friendship??
You know, it’s ironic, myself (and my husband) and many people I grew up with experienced divorced parents… Many of us have learned from this “experience” and have learned that one of the major “rules” of a successful marriage is EFFORT and although that is 100% , a post worthy of it’s own, and a marriage does need to remain the number 1 focus – it’s almost like we have refocused ALL of our energies and really need to concentrate on making the friendship effort too!! See, I told you it was ironic!!
So – I challenge you (to do along with me) in the next 2 weeks, the “OLD FRIEND, moment to re-connect and I just gotta tell you I love you and you can me in the middle of the night” challenge… in this day and age of social networking… you have to insist on personal contact, so facebook or email them, send them a text, pick up the telephone or how about this crazy off the cuff idea - stop by their homes… either way, pick 2 old friends… Just 2 – ANY 2, and make an effort to get together face to face or at minimum – voice to voice… Schedule a night out…Just a quick drink…How about a coffee at Dunkin’ or Timmy Ho’s or a quick coke at Burger King… Meet at a store, go to the mall… take a walk – stop at their house with a surprise treat… Anything to show you are making an effort! Reconnect – if only for a moment, tell them you LOVE them and experience the feel good moment – twice – you have to do it with 2 friends!
So – are you with me? Is it just me? Am I putting too much emphasis on what I expect from friendship?
Do tell – Let’s Chat!! No seriously – call me… I NEED 2 friends – like NOW!!!!